My friend Nat sent me the following cartoon. This one she keeps taped to her file cabinet, and I think I will print it out and put it on my refrigerator next to a photo of me and my kids on the odd chance I ever need a reminder as to why I'm a single mom. Love this one!
This one was on Post/Sec*ret last week for the mother's day run, and it struck a chord with me, because the same thought has crossed my mind many times...
I've yet to find a man that could prove me wrong, but I no longer wish, hope, or believe that is possible. There's something refreshing about finally accepting the truth!
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But that is just so sad....If we do believe that, than we succomb to the thought that we have absolutelty NOTHING! I just do NOT want to have that as my reality even though I KNOW deep down that it is true....
It is sad, but we do NOT have "absolutely nothing." A man is not the answer to everything, in fact a man can be a hindrance rather than a solution. We have our kids--lots of single women out there don't, and lots of married women out there don't either. If had to choose between a man and a child, I would choose a child hands down.
I still believe that we shouldn't have to choose. That being said I think it's safer to not date while you have children to raise given the risk to children from men who are not their fathers in ways large and small.
I also think this illustrates how each of our summed experiences shapes our thinking.
And, I think each of us needs to allow for time to pass and our thoughts, needs, and desires to change. I certainly feel differently about men and what I want or would want from a relationship/marriage than I did 10 years ago, 20 years ago, and 30 years ago.
I absolutely agree with Terri 100%
While I still have that small glimmer of hope, a lot of what you say is so true..and I agree with Lori as well. I think most of us here are down on men because of what's happened to us...I mean, obviously, experiences shape attitudes & beliefs. I'm a psychologist's wet dream, having had a father leave me at the time when my attitudes about men were at their most crucial...so I think all men will leave and don't love me. LOL The wonderful thing for me now is that I've gotten past the stage of 'needing' a man to make me who I am...it would be a nice to have a companion that I don't live with who I could take out to play with when I wanted and put it away when I didn't - see, your aunt WAS right about the vibrators!!!! :-) Hate that we're all so cynical though...*sigh*
That comic is so classic!
I've found, even the best of them are like Ego Man. Your aunt says that, but again, she's still with him, right?
That's my pet peeve. There's so many who say, "It's better to be alone," or "Leave that jerk you're with and find a better man." But that's usually coming from someone who's already got a man, not someome flying by the seat of their plants like me.
I still retain a glimmer of hope.
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